What do you do all day?

A couple weekends ago we went camping with some friends who all have 3-5 kids. It was a great weekend, we had so much fun! At one point I was sitting at the picnic tables with a 5 other adults and one guy asked me, "What are your hobbies?" I was a little caught off guard because I haven't had someone ask me that question in that way since I single. Hobbies? Huh? What are those? I was stumped. I quickly recovered, since I noticed four other women were listening and waiting for my answer. Pressure. So I was honest. I said, "I love to be outside doing anything...mostly running and biking. I have an online business and I love to read." Hmmm...seemed a little blah, but nonetheless that's all I could think of on the spot.

Then the other ladies started to chime in, saying things like, "I remember when we were first married I didn't have kids or a job for 6 months and I told my friends with kids that I get to do all the things they don't have time for." Or another response, "Yeah, those were the days, my house was the cleanest it's ever been."  Etc.

Wow. Now it made sense. They were all wondering what I do all day since I don't have kids and I don't have a full time job. I've actually been asked this question quite a few times and it automatically puts me on edge. Makes it seem like because I don't have children or a job that I'm not doing anything worthwhile with my time. Ha! Sure, some days I have more free time than others, but I'm usually always busy. 

One of these days I'm going to be brutally honest and say to someone, "I don't have any kids, but we've been trying for almost 4 years and I don't have a job because I'm constantly going to doctor's appointments or to the lab to get my blood drawn or to the pharmacy to pick up prescriptions or in my bed from nausea, fatigue, or migraines from all that drugs I'm constantly taking and injecting into my body on a daily basis." I've tried to have even a part time job while doing fertility treatments and it just doesn't work for me. It's too hard, too much stress and we all know that the "S" word is the arch enemy of the "I" word. Plus, when I take a job, I want to do the best I can and be there for my employer, I don't ever do things half way. Right now, I know I can't commit myself completely to a company or employer, so my solution was to start a home business. I've been very successful so far and looking forward to expanding and growing my business in the future. It has been a blessing that has come from struggling with infertility...if I didn't have this time at home, without children, I know I wouldn't have been able to start my business. 

What do I do all day? 

A lot. Come on over, we'll hang out and you can see for yourself.